While we're nowhere near the subject of exes (Xes?), here's my list of gains:

• Dennis how to be an artist.


• Peter how to cheerfully economize. to let men suffer the consquences of their behaviour.


• Randy where totally great sex comes from. how to let go. how to be happy.


• Stephen to take care of the skin on my legs. that money doesn't fix anything.


• Michel to stand up straight. how to eat an elephant. to be fully present.

Good to know it hasn't all been in vain.